Singles Chat

A singles chat session is basically a place (either a physical place or a virtual place in cyber space) where people can go and communicate (i.e. chat) with each other about what's going on in their lives. Generally, singles chats are conducted via the internet using what is often referred to as an online chat.

As always, when participating in an online singles chat, you should be wise as to how and when you divulge personal information because such information in the hands of the wrong person can come back to haunt you. Also, there's no need to sound desparate. Most people can pick up pretty quick when a person is desparate. Generally, your dating prospects, as well as potential non-romantic friends, will avoid desparate people either consciously or unconsciously. So, keep this in mind. Besides, if you are participating in a singles chat session and you are truely desparate, then it probably points to some other issues that you have which are beyond the scope of this article.

Assuming you are wanting to use singles chat sessions to initiate new friendships, it is wise to practice the art of keeping a healthy pace. You don't want to stifle the online conversations by never initiating any conversation. Yet, you don't want to dominate the conversations to the point that your conversation partners don't have a chance to get in a word at all. It's a good idea to know up front who you are and what you want so that you'll have the ability to set healthy boundaries on the conversation topics as well as boundaries on the rate at which you disclose personal information. Assuming your online single chat friendships move to the real physical world (i.e. the offline world), you'll want to already know what your boundaries are up front so that when (not if) you get into certain situations you will already know what to do. Planning ahead is key. Discernment is of great value.

Now, from a purely marketing perspective, you'll want to make it worth your time chat online by attracting as many people as possible to you. Keep in mind that you are most likely one of hundreds or thousands of people to choose from in a singles chat room. People are inititially deciding to chat with you online based on a very short and simple photograph and biographical description of yourself. That's it. So make it good. Don't lie. But, definitely don't be afraid to market yourself a bit. You'll be glad you did.

For example, if you are a female you need to keep in mind that men are stimulated by what they see and they are driven to conquer all obstacles in order to get what they want--in this case a female. Therefore, ladies, it's probably in your best interest to post the most flattering picture that you have of yourself. "But, isn't that superficial", you might ask? Well, not really. Remember, we're not recommending that you post a picture because that's all that matters in a relationship. We're recommending that you post a picture because that's what you have to do to compete for the attention of the thousands of other women in the singles chat room who ARE posting their pictures. It's a recommendation that embraces the recognized fact that men are intially stimulated by what they see. In addition, you have to understand that when engaging in online singles chat sessions, the more like real life that you can make your experience, the more fruitful your cyber encouter will be. Think about it, in real life the first thing that you see when meeting a new person in their face. Then, you greet each other with a handshake. Then, you begin introducing yourself and starting a conversation. It's worked for thousands of years in the offline world. Why not try to imitate in a singles chat the things that are proven to work in the offline world? For the men, you still want to put a flattering picture of yourself for the women to see but you'll find that that, initially, your description carries more weight when a woman is browsing around the chat room trying to decide whom she is going to initiate a conversation. Women, as a whole, tend to overlook physical appearance more than men do. Thus, men should be themselves, but should remember to be polite, gentle, and as graceful as possible when writing their personal biographical descriptions as this is all women have to go by initially when choosing who they will chat with.

Once an online chat relationship has been initiated and cultivated for some minimum amount of time, you can focus less on the marketing side of things (because the whole point was just to compete for attention) and focus more on getting to know the other person. You see, it's after you get their attention that you can then really get to know each other. Initially you just have to go out of your way sometimes just to get noticed. Then, once you've been noticed you can tone it down and focus on the things that matter (e.g. not marketing yourself). Remember, if you don't put in any effort to getting noticed in a singles chat room then you'll probably be disappointed in your results. Don't be lazy. Don't lie. Be yourself. Think outside the box. Have fun.